Hello and welcome back to my blog, I am so happy to be writing this blog post, mainly because I feel like I need to just need to get this off my chest, I even filmed a video on it. This is something I actually think that most girls, or most people should actually spend more time focusing on it. 

This is about why I am choosing myself over others now, and what I am doing to really be happy by myself. 

As Carrie Bradshaw once said, "I am just going to be myself. Single and Fabulous!" Which is the exact thing I am going to be. 

In the words of Ru Paul, "If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you going to love someone else."

It takes a lot to say NO I am going to just focus on myself now and no one else and trust me I for one definitely get it, I have always been a person who puts other peoples feelings before mine! But sometimes you have to realise if you don't focus on yourself, you are not going to be happy! 

Being free and just the chance to be yourself and feel like you are going to love yourself and give yourself self care and make sure you are the happiest you can be on your own. 

I have a few reasons why I am choosing myself, first of all is HAPPINESS! This is because you can't and shouldn't rely on others to make you happy, yes you can be happy in the company of others but that doesn't mean you can't be happy with your own company and it should be you making yourself happy which is something I have had to learn over the past two years of university. 

Another thing is I am starting to realise I don't NEED others to make me happy, I just need myself, I need to focus on me and making myself happy! Which if you give yourself a healthy mindset you can be happy. 

This point leads on, the lss you need others the more INDEPENDANT you will become, becuase you won't be relying on anyone else but yourself to be happy which means you can realy focus on yourself. Because the more you rely on others to make you happy, means you'll do anything to make them happy even if you're not happy. So once you start focusing on yourself you become more independant. 

Another thing is and this goes back to making others happy, STOP doing things you don't want to do for others just because it'll make them happy. 

Another thing is and this is what I did all the time, I let people walk all over me and say things and would just be like im so sorry and whatever even if I wasn't in the wrong STICK UP FOR YOURSELF, even though it is hard to do so and trust I get it, sticking up for yourself is the most important thing and if you lose friends because of it then really they aren't a true friend. 

Another reason I am chosing me over anything is to stop OVERTHINKING, it is something I always struggle with, I will overthink any little thing I can and honestly it actually sucks because it makes me not want to do anything and I just sit there and be miserable and scared and down for the whole day. 

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Walks along the Beach/Walks in General

I mean first off for the beach, in this weather we have right now, walks on the beach are kind of, very cold but living by the beach makes me want to go for walks there more often. Even though it has been pretty cold, walking on the beach with friends can be very fun and you can make so many different memories whilst just walking on the beach. Walking on the beach on your own is also very therapeutic. If you haven't got a beach to walk on, then just going for walks, they can be very nice and relaxing and fun as well. 

Going to the Pub
Now I know not everyone is legal to drink, but if you are, just a nice simple night going to the local pub whether its a wetherspoons or a more fancy pub. Having a few drinks and a chat or catch up is always nice, it's very nice to spend time with friends over a drink.

Clubbing
This is another thing that is like going to the pub but it doesn't allow you to do much talking, there is a lot of music and dancing that you can't really talk. But if you're legal to drink and go to a club then I definitely thing this is a fun one off chance you can go in a week or maybe once a month depending on how much money you have.

Coffee Shops or Dessert Trips
Going out for coffee with friends is always relaxing and fun, or even going there and doing work can always been used as relaxing and always nice to go and do work and have a cup of coffee and even spend time with friends as it's always a good place for friends to catch up if you haven't seen each other in a while.

Events going on with Friends 
Where ever you are, I am sure there are events you wish to go to whether they are close by or not, why not go with your friends, if they are close by then you can go out and have some fun and get there and back easily. Yet, if it is further away you can enjoy the journey with your friends and making even more memories. For me, events I have experienced with friends especially recently, was Firework Night which was really nice and relaxing and chilled because it was a night with no drinking but with some of my closest friends and having a laugh. Another one was Chinese New Year, I mean I'm not Chinese and I have never experienced Chinese New Year before but fortunately my friend was in the show that was going on near my university halls so me and my flatmates went to watch and it was very relaxing and fun to see what they do in the Culture. It's very easy to find some simple but fun events going on you can do with friends.

Movie Nights & Chilled Nights in with Friends. 
Going back to being a teenager but it's something that'll never get old, is Movie Nights, even at university, getting a group of friends together for an evening to take a break from work and stress, and put on movies and get snacks and chill, it's very relaxing but very fun as well. 

Society Nights Out (Specifically for Uni Students)
This one is mainly for university students, but join Societies, mainly because one night a week, you will make new friends and you'll also have a lot of fun. What's even better is their nights out, for example with my show choir, we went to a place called Playzone, which was really fun and actually a much better way to make new friends.  Doing things out of your comfort zone
One main thing I have to say is do things out of you comfort zone, you'll make new memories and the whole point of living your life is to make the most of it, so don't spend it sitting doing nothing and regretting it all.

So that is my 50 facts about me, I am sure have got to know me better, but if you want a full all about me post tomorrow or wednesday then let me know in the comments and I will be willing and excited to write it for you guys. Feel free to leave a comment.  

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